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"But unlike you, I recognize that the world can change in a way that necessitates tactical flexibility. I also update my priors when experience gives me data that challenges my current heuristics and mental models.

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>Literally nowhere do I offer women alimony for “situationships.” I’m very specifically offering them alimony for engagements lasting multiple years wherein the man ends the relationship past the woman’s peak SMV. This is grotesquely antisocial behavior that causes women to become femcel man-haters in their thirties, and we need to alter the legal incentive structure to make men less morally lazy in their dating habits.<

I really don't see how this isn't just extending the full-scale disaster of modern divorce norms out to include engagements. You're giving men yet another really big incentive not to bother with marriage at all, because even getting engaged now carries a huge legal risk with it! How do you expect courts to litigate who is at fault in a failed relationship? Regardless of the true situation, the woman is guaranteed to feel that she is the victim, and to present that narrative accordingly. Do you really think it's a good idea to have judges trying to sort out more couples' interpersonal drama for them?

I agree that men shouldn't take advantage of women with false engagements, but your proposed solution seems much worse than the actual problem. I'm also a bit curious as to why this is noted as a problem to begin with. The general issue with men right now is that too many of them are getting no action to begin with. Is there some epidemic of non-committal men who are going around serially engaging and then dumping women? If so, I'd be interested to see the data showing that.

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